HOW TO DEAL WITH BEING CHEATED ON.

The last thing anybody ever wants to find out is that somebody they cared about cheated on them. The reality is it happens - a lot. Coping with the situation can be very difficult depending on the duration of the relationship. Regardless of whether you have been in an 11 month relationship or an 11 year relationship it still hurts. However, what's done is done, now you need to take these 3 steps in an attempt to move past this.

Accept it : It's not going to be easy but in order to move forward you are going to have to face the fact that your spouse has cheated on you. No amount of wishing will change what has happened. Don't expect to accept it overnight, that usually doesn't happen - give it time.

Try to avoid blowing up on your spouse as it will just push them farther away, what you need to do is find out what went wrong.

Assess the situation : Did you do something specific to push your significant other into the arms of somebody else???? Try and talk to him or her and find out why. Keep in mind the answer they give you may not be the real underlying reason. For example, if you get "it just happened", well there's a reason why it just happened. Maybe you haven't been around enough or maybe they don't feel like you care anymore.

However, the reason could have been completely out of your control and nothing you had done or could do could have changed it. You're going to need to reflect on your relationship right now, what is going to happen?

I have already learnt to accept in my own peace of mind. Actually it might have been an accident. Nowadays, accidents do happen when you're in the influence of 'drugs'/ tonics/ alcohol? Anyway, all of us should always be careful at all times that we do not fall into prey. That we do not put our trust into the wrong hands, for fear that our lives would be crushed one day.......