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A Strategy for Self-Preservation.

In good times, bad times, ancient times, and today, there are always some young, up-and-coming individuals who exhibit extraordinary talent and capabilities in their chosen field. Before they "arrived" at the top, while they were in the process of proving themselves and utilizing all of their resources to push themselves forward and upward, they were often labeled as "climbers". Interestingly, our society usually looks down on climbers. I believe we should lend a hand to those truly capable climbers. Unless we were born into the Kennedy or Rockefeller families, each one of us is on the way up to new plateaus. Today's nobody may become tomorrow's somebody. While you are on your way up, for your own sake, lend a hand to another climber. Once during an interview, a reporter asked Gregory Peck why he volunteer to share the leading role in the film Roman Holiday with an unknown actress, Audrey Hepburn. His answer was, "My motive was a selfish one. She was so brilliant, I knew when the film was released she would be an instant star. If I took the leading role alone, it would have made me a laughing stock. It's all about self-preservation."

Mr. Lin, a Taiwan business and political leader told me, "Years ago, the present Republic of China's presidential chief of staff, Y.S.Tsiang, 'voluntarily' removed himself from the political circle and started a teaching career. At that time, very few people came to visit him. Everyone thought he had no more future in politics. Since I had always admired his charisma, I would invite him to my house for dinner of tea. No one could even imagine then he would be holding the position of chief of staff today."

You can never understand or know the mystery of fate; We should always lend a hand to those capable individuals during the time they are on their way up. For the Thick Face, Black Heart practitioner, this is a good strategy for self-preservation.

My self - preservation ( ELAINE WANLING LIEW )

The Key is to being IMPORTANT through service of thy hands.

Mr. and Mrs. Smith are farmers in central California. They are just common folk performing their daily duties. They have no money or power to influence anyone or to change anything. Like most of us, they are not particularly "important". Their daughter told me, " My father and mother are so opposite. My father's whole attitude toward others is to try and impress on them how important he is, because deep down he knows he is not. Conversely, my mother knows she is not important, and she accepts it. She never tries to impress anyone or prove a point to show how important she is. Beneath her quiet and gentle manner, she is very wise and down-to-earth. She understands the basic virtue of life - to serve your fellow man. Through service, she increased her value to her community. Therefore, automatically she became important."

On the other hand, Philip is a brilliant graphics designer. His small studio is always struggling from month to month. It is not the quality of his artwork that jeopardizes his financial success but rather the quality of his personality. Like Mr. Smith, Philip felt a lack of self-importance. To Philip, the most important thing is not success in business or making money. The most important thing is to be "important" in others' eyes. He is doing just the opposite of what Mrs.Smith did. Rather than make himself useful to his customers through excellent service, he is often having an ego competition with the very people he is supposed to be serving. Whenever a customer spoke to him in a tone of voice that he considered disrespectful he would turn down the work, even though his schedule was totally empty and he was desperately in need of money. Unfortunately, most of his prospective customers did not meet his standard of respect. I asked him why he felt so offended by these people. His answer was, "They think that just because they have a little money they can order me around."

Whenever people give him praise, he will soak it up like a dry sponge in a puddle of water. He can feast on that praise for days. Although Philip is desperately seeking confirmation that he is "important" , and craves to be respected, unlike Mrs. Smith, he does not understand that the key to being important is in making yourself useful to others.

MY CASE :
I helped my mother buy breakfast and food from the marketplace by walking out with my umbrella and walking shoes every morning. Mom can relax and enjoy a movie. Mother is OLD. She is always tired and busy around the house that she has no time to run errands and to go out of the house to do extra work each and other passing day. OLD AGE. I am my mother's pet. I value this virtue. I respect my parents and show that I can help out eventhough I failed in my marriage life for 12 years and at the point of divorce and now finally separated.

I MAKE MYSELF IMPORTANT SO THAT I CAN ALSO FEEL GOOD.

I helped my mother to wash the dishes everyday and I helped my mother to cook the whole day long. I helped my mother go to the market to buy food and I helped her carry the load and the burden of food and ingredients.):

My motto for the year is EVERYDAY IN THE KITCHEN, I AM HAPPY ~ Quote by NIGELLA.

I am now in the CULINARY ARTS AND SCIENCE.